I had the same problem...my little man is now 3.5 and born 6.5 weeks early. We held him to sleep/cuddled him till he was 6 months and then had to break the habit. We tried different things and the best ones we found were having his special stuffed animal with him and a lullaby cd (his fave is Jewel's lullabies). We had to use the cry it out method and it was a killer on me, not so much my hubby. I had to go back to him after 5 minutes at the start to settle him, but as the weeks went along, I stayed out longer and longer till he figured out how to self soothe himself. This lasted awhile and was hard. Keep working on it and it will get better! I still deal with crying before sleeping.